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Embracing the High School Reunion: Conquering Insecurities and Reconnecting with Joy
Today, I want to share a very personal story about my recent high school reunion, which took place this past weekend. I'm proud to say that I’m actually excited to share my experience with you!
The Build-Up to the Reunion
High school reunions carry a lot of emotional weight, influenced by movies, shows, and societal expectations. These events stir up a mix of excitement and anxiety as we often feel the pressure to prove ourselves: How will we look? What will others think? Have we achieved enough?
These deep-rooted insecurities naturally arise during such milestones. The weeks leading up to my 20-year reunion were no different for me.
Facing the Mirror of Insecurities
It all began with the wardrobe dilemma. What should I wear? I bought and returned outfits, tried on countless options, and faced the mirror repeatedly. Despite being at a very content point in my life—happy in my marriage and having the best relationship I've ever had with myself (and alcohol!) —I still found myself grappling with old insecurities.
The Epiphany
Then, it hit me. High school is a time filled with insecurity, where we struggle to fit in and are surrounded by others who are equally insecure. This reunion forced me to confront my younger self, laden with those same anxieties.
However, it was heartening to see how everyone had grown. The mature adults we’ve become carried themselves with newfound confidence, and it was beautiful to see people happy, content, and comfortable in their (well-aging) skin :)
The Power of Connection
The reunion wasn’t just about seeing old friends; it was about reconnecting with a community I grew up with. Despite the insecurities, everyone seemed genuinely happy. As a coach, parent, and friend, my ultimate wish for everyone is to find themselves and let everything else fall into place.
My Struggles with Moderation
Now, let’s talk about drinking. Pre-ShameOver, I would pregame, take a shot for nerves, and continue drinking to ease the awkwardness of social situations. But this time was different.
I started with one drink, sipped it slowly, and switched to 2 big glasses of water afterward. Next, I had a booze*free option - they had Gruvi's Juicy IPA which I LOVE - followed by more water. I had allotted 3 total which I did end up enjoying, but I did realize after the fact that I didn't even even want the third drink. I saw myself trying to figure out what I "wanted" only to force a drink I didn't even finish. The fact that I realized that and also left a man standing (aka didn't finish the drink) - that’s the real growth right there.
Lessons to Take Forward
What I learned and want to share with you is that we continuously evolve. Whether its familiar or possibly anxiety-inducing situations, there will always be opportunity for growth. Checking in with yourself and making mindful choices is key. It’s okay to say no. It’s also okay to adjust plans based on how you feel in the moment.
These moments of choice are crucial. Practicing mindfulness and moderation in drinking is an ongoing journey. Life events like reunions can trigger past insecurities, but they also offer opportunities for incredible growth and connection.
Final Thoughts
If you have an event coming up that causes anxiety, take a moment to reflect.
Why is it making you anxious?
Is there underlying trauma, insecurities, or other unresolved issues at play?
How can you face them, make a plan, and embrace the opportunity to grow?
Reconnecting with my past in a healthier, more mindful way turned my reunion into a beautiful experience.
Remember, life is about community and connection. Be present and be in the moment. That's how memories are made and where the magic of mindfulness happens.
If you found this story helpful, please share it. Your support means the world and helps me reach more people. Thank you for being here and listening. Your relationship with alcohol can improve, and mindfulness and moderation are the keys. Love to all, and until next time, cheers!
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