Trust Yourself: What Self-Trust Really Means (and Why It Might Be the Missing Piece in Your Moderation Journey)

If you’ve ever said, “I know better... so why don’t I DO better?”—you’re not alone.

For so many women (especially sensitive, high-achieving, perfection-prone ones), the real issue isn’t knowing what to do. It’s trusting ourselves enough to actually do it. And that’s where today’s ShameOver podcast guest, Emily Romero, comes in hot.

Emily is a former somatic trauma therapist turned author of the transformative book "Trust Yourself." In this episode, we explore how self-trust isn’t just a fluffy concept — it’s a practical, powerful tool for healing trauma, regulating your nervous system, and building a life you don’t feel the need to numb from.

What We Talk About:

Emily breaks down her Self-Trust Model, which includes:

• 💬 Radical honesty (even when it's uncomfortable)

• 🤝 Keeping promises to yourself (yes, even the small ones)

• 🧠 Nervous system regulation (because no one makes great decisions when dysregulated)

• 🌱 Self-knowledge (the kind that goes deeper than any personality quiz ever could)

These pillars don’t just help you feel better — they help you break free from patterns like overdrinking, overthinking, overgiving... and underliving.

Whether you’re exploring mindful drinking, navigating motherhood, or just trying to feel more like you again, this conversation is full of lightbulb moments and gentle truths that hit right in the gut (and the heart).

Here’s a taste of what we cover:

• How trauma messes with our ability to trust ourselves

• Why nervous system health is everything (especially for HSPs)

• What to do if your inner critic is LOUD

• How to rebuild trust after years of self-abandonment

• The connection between shame, overdrinking, and healing

• Why self-trust is the foundation for moderation

This episode is for the woman who wants to stop starting over every Monday. Who wants to drink less without white-knuckling her way through life. Who’s ready to go deeper, not harder.

Because drinking less isn’t just about willpower — it’s about what’s underneath.

👉 Listen now to the full episode on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Watch on YouTube

👉 Grab Emily’s book "Trust Yourself" on Amazon

👉 Explore my free Thrive Without Numbing guide here if you’re ready to start trusting yourself again — one step at a time.

Emily Romero - Creator of The Self-Trust Model™

Emily Romero is a long time trauma therapist turned author and creator of The Self-Trust Model™. She began her career as a therapist in 2010 and founded her private practice, Curiosity Rising, in 2019. With a passion for holistic and integrative approaches, she specialized in working with complex trauma and anxiety through the lens of somatics, parts work, and psychedelic therapy. 

She designed The Self-Trust Model™ to empower women to overcome self-doubt, overthinking, and insecurity so they can feel confident chasing their big dreams. She now leads training and certification programs for those interested in applying the model to their practices. 

She’s the host of The Self-Trust Podcast and the author of two books, including her newest release: You Can Trust Yourself. 

Links: 

You Can Trust Yourself book — https://amzn.to/4iIWaXz

The Self-Trust Podcast — available on all podcast platforms

 https://curiosityrising.substack.com/podcast